When talking about TEACHING RESPONSIBILITY TO YOUR CHILDREN then there are different views of parents which can be a very confusing and delightful answer which varies from person to person.
What is the definition of Responsibility?
One of the most popular replies is when parents are asked what characteristics they want their children to have now and as adults are “to be responsible.” This is a wide word that can refer to a variety of topics, including:
- Being trustworthy so that others may rely on you
- keeping one’s promises,
- Achieving one’s goals to the best of one’s ability,
- Being responsible for one’s actions,
- Accepting credit when things go well and admitting faults
- Being an active participant in one’s family, community, and society
Children’s success in school and in the broader world depends on their ability to be responsible.
Responsibility vs. Obedience
Obeyance and accountability are frequently confused by parents. Most parents want their children to do what they ask, follow directions, and not challenge their authority – all of which are sensible and necessary goals in child rearing. This, however, is not a kind of accountability!! Obedience would be the term for these actions.
Most parents want their children to take ownership of a task or duty over time — they do it because it has to be done and understand that it is their responsibility. They may eventually start executing a task “because it needs to be done,” rather than because they are being instructed to. This is referred to as a responsible attitude.
What Level of Involvement Should You Have?
When it comes to helping your children meet their obligations and finish duties, the transition from obedience to responsibility poses the question of how active you should be.
Because we don’t want our children to fail, we often do too much for them; as a result, the youngsters don’t learn to take on responsibility for themselves.
Children, on the other hand, may require supervision, assistance, or knowledge in order to learn how to be responsible.
It’s a fine art to strike a balance between over-parenting and over-managing.
The child’s maturity, past behaviour with responsibility in general and with this task in particular, the developmental task the child is working on, the child’s temperament, and many other factors will all play a role in determining when it is appropriate to step in and when it is more effective to let go and give the child space to do it his way.
It takes years to instil the attitudes and behaviours that make children responsible, and it requires many different parts of the parenting puzzle.
Parents‘ Two-Faced Role
If you’ve ever pondered if you’re being too severe or too lenient with your children, or if you’re providing them enough love, you’ve come across thoughts regarding the two vital roles that parents play. Each of you has a role to play in assisting your children in becoming responsible.
Role of Nurturing and Caring
You are being kind and kind to your children when you do the Nurturing/Caring Role. Listen to your children, support them, spend time with them, and be loving with them in this capacity.
You, as the Nurturing Parent, transmit unconditional love – you love your children just because they exist and are yours, regardless of what occurs. This permits your children to take risks and make errors while knowing that they are loved and supported unconditionally by their parents.
Executive Role/Structure
Setting limits and boundaries, establishing discipline, teaching your children how to act, passing on your beliefs, and providing advice are all part of the Structure/Executive Role’s duties.
You give your children the opportunity to suffer some frustration, postpone gratification, and grow less impulsive and self-centred by not satisfying their wants instantly and not giving them everything they desire.
You establish expectations for your children’s behaviour. You decide what happens if someone breaks the rules, and you follow through on those decisions. You instil in your children the value of being grateful for what they have.
You hold your children accountable for their actions through the Executive Role, which encourages the development of a responsible adult.
Combination of two roles
Parents must fulfil both tasks for their children. When you create a warm, loving, and supporting connection that underpins the discipline you impose, children are more likely to accept the restrictions you set and to desire to achieve your expectations (i.e. be responsible).
